Okay, so I decided to first post my recollections about the year in month by month form from memory, then go back and look at old posts, etc. to see how that compared.
January - Went on ski trip to Colorado. Attended son's company party. Both offered a good time, both were opportunities for spouse to display disregard for me and our marriage.
February - Planned event to promote U Bar U. Saw old friends and had a good time. Moderate financial success. Also attended Bid Fest (Texas Ski Council) in San Antonio. Learned that even though I had been attending meetings and events for 2.5 years, no one had ever seen me before.
March - Had party for spouse 60th birthday. Based on one she threw me (assuming that is what she would like).
April - Rehearsed with First Unitarian choir for concert piece delivered on Easter. Great experience.
May - Visit with daughter and B.F. in Bay Area. Great 4 day trip. Also Men's retreat at UBU
June - Began attending Zoomers Meet Up events. Went to Child Advocates training, decided it was not for me.
July - Tenant lease ends, I move out of my home into rent house. Begin fixing it up. Saw Bernie Sanders at UH. Saw Steely Dan, Elvis Costello, then EWF + Chicago.
August - Started singing in choir at FUC, went on weekend camp/DG trip in hill country, started attending weekly small group meetings from church.
September - Met Karen Price went on first date Sat. Sept 5 Skeeters baseball. Second date Sun. Sept 13 Last Concert Cafe, third date Sat Sept. 19 Cave Stock
October - Great Mississippi River Balloon Race, Halloween on FM1960, followed by Ren Fair.
November - Started playing Wed. at Michelangelo, Men's retreat, Prohibition date.
December - Lot's O work. A few nice dates, Jones Hall concert, SCSC gala dinner/dance, Broadway show at Wortham, finish the month/year at the beach Port Aransas
Now, highlights from my journal.
January - Deep concern for my primary relationship, spouse zoned out, moved our of bedroom, etc.
February - Had "The Conversation" that led to Rita lowering the boom ("I want a divorce"). Got support from my friends, and a therapist. Tough month
March - Started thinking of Rita as V4.0 - not the version of life partner I have had for many years. Helps a bit. Did not have party for spouse birthday, that was last year.
April - Started working on splitting the assets. Negotiating who gets what. Deciding where I want to live. Looking at options.
May - Still of two minds on many issues of the future.
June - Busy at work, nice camping weekend with the fellas
July - Vowing to file divorce papers by September, started looking at dating apps.
August - Trailer wreck, flirting on Tinder.
September - Met Karen, went on date, broke a tooth, worried about Herpes.
October - things ramping up with Karen, enjoy weekly singing in choir
November - Started weekly at Michelangelo appreciating relationship with Karen.
December - Working 7 days a week, and almost as many nights.
January - Went on ski trip to Colorado. Attended son's company party. Both offered a good time, both were opportunities for spouse to display disregard for me and our marriage.
February - Planned event to promote U Bar U. Saw old friends and had a good time. Moderate financial success. Also attended Bid Fest (Texas Ski Council) in San Antonio. Learned that even though I had been attending meetings and events for 2.5 years, no one had ever seen me before.
March - Had party for spouse 60th birthday. Based on one she threw me (assuming that is what she would like).
April - Rehearsed with First Unitarian choir for concert piece delivered on Easter. Great experience.
May - Visit with daughter and B.F. in Bay Area. Great 4 day trip. Also Men's retreat at UBU
June - Began attending Zoomers Meet Up events. Went to Child Advocates training, decided it was not for me.
July - Tenant lease ends, I move out of my home into rent house. Begin fixing it up. Saw Bernie Sanders at UH. Saw Steely Dan, Elvis Costello, then EWF + Chicago.
August - Started singing in choir at FUC, went on weekend camp/DG trip in hill country, started attending weekly small group meetings from church.
September - Met Karen Price went on first date Sat. Sept 5 Skeeters baseball. Second date Sun. Sept 13 Last Concert Cafe, third date Sat Sept. 19 Cave Stock
October - Great Mississippi River Balloon Race, Halloween on FM1960, followed by Ren Fair.
November - Started playing Wed. at Michelangelo, Men's retreat, Prohibition date.
December - Lot's O work. A few nice dates, Jones Hall concert, SCSC gala dinner/dance, Broadway show at Wortham, finish the month/year at the beach Port Aransas
Now, highlights from my journal.
January - Deep concern for my primary relationship, spouse zoned out, moved our of bedroom, etc.
February - Had "The Conversation" that led to Rita lowering the boom ("I want a divorce"). Got support from my friends, and a therapist. Tough month
March - Started thinking of Rita as V4.0 - not the version of life partner I have had for many years. Helps a bit. Did not have party for spouse birthday, that was last year.
April - Started working on splitting the assets. Negotiating who gets what. Deciding where I want to live. Looking at options.
May - Still of two minds on many issues of the future.
June - Busy at work, nice camping weekend with the fellas
July - Vowing to file divorce papers by September, started looking at dating apps.
August - Trailer wreck, flirting on Tinder.
September - Met Karen, went on date, broke a tooth, worried about Herpes.
October - things ramping up with Karen, enjoy weekly singing in choir
November - Started weekly at Michelangelo appreciating relationship with Karen.
December - Working 7 days a week, and almost as many nights.
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